Having a lack of discipline can affect your life in various ways, especially when you are involving other people, such as your relationship with others and also while you're dating. It's going to show up in variously like: mentally, spiritually, emotionally, physically, financially, and also soulfully."Discipline" is defined when it comes to relationships and dating as: "a keen ability to manage your own thoughts, feelings, and actions. Resulting in a sustainable and fulfilling connection, centered around self-control making decisions that align with your own personal values and long-term goals for the relationship". Establishing Boundaries/ Non-Negotiables And Standing On Business: Once you recognize your own boundaries and non-negotiables, it's easy to stick to them so you won't tolerate them in the relationship with anyone. The moment you stick to them it's like bam, it's solidified! An issue that can arise with this is when don't stick to your own boundaries or non-negotiables, you kinda give permission to other people to violate in a way (subjective); when you violate your own stuff in the presence of others Being mindful of your boundaries, and your non-negotiables can help you stick to them as best as you can! Communicating Effectively: Effective and comprehensible communication is the foundation of any relationship. Applying it requires that you express your desires and wants clearly, while also maintaining active listening, empathy, patience, and compassion for your partner or potential. All around, effective communication is a very solid foundation for communication styles. Being Impeccable With Your Word: Being impeccable with your word means: "saying what you mean and meaning what you say", also speaking within the realm of truth, honor, and integrity, by using your words mindfully, consciously, intentionally, and kindly. It also means avoiding gossip and negativity; lest we forget making promises that you cannot keep! Don't Take Anything Personally: When it comes to not taking things personally, try to remember that we are a mirror. So most of the time, people only see in us what "they want to see in themselves", "they don't see themselves", or "they do see themselves"! Wht others say or do to you is a reflection of them, their own perception of reality, not yours! So don't allow their opinions to define who you are as a person, period! ! Don't Make Assumptions:Asking clarifying questions, getting clarity, and understanding will help you to avoid misunderstandings. When you assume things, you are placing yourself in a position to be amongst conflict, by not making assumptions, you place yourself in harmony with effective and comprehensible communication within your community or relationships. Always Do Your Best: Always doing your best is another foundation of having a sustainable healthy existence, relationships, and life altogether! Giving your best self in any circumstance does not indicate that you're trying to be "perfect", but yet it indicates striving to consistently "improve yourself". "Always doing your best" equates to ambition, not potential. drive, purpose, that passion, it's relentless! Now that we've covered the bases of what discipline is, let's get into some signs that will show you how you're not disciplined; when it shows up in your life when it comes to dating and relationships. Previously, we talked about the different types of areas where discipline would affect your life because you have to realize it will affect you mentally, spiritually, emotionally, physically, financially, soulfully. There's no linear area that discipline can't affect, it affects everything. So when you think of dating and relationships, is adding something to the discipline or lack thereof that you've already acquired, or were programmed to have. Key Factors That You Lack Discipline:
Being undisciplined can lead you down a road of not getting positive feedback, not having a supportive network of friends that supports you, not having sustainable, healthy relationships, and not being respected in your respective communities. So it's. Extremely important to keep disciplined about yourself so people could take you seriously. The relationships that you're fostering with them you can cultivate in a harmonious way and you won't have to question yourself a lot and other people won't question your integrity. That's the most important part of this is that showing your discipline shows your integrity. Without even trying. I hope y'all truly enjoyed this article. Let me know what you think in the comments. Until next time, peace peace. Y'all, take care! Â Cited Sources: Don Miguel Ruiz https://www.miguelruiz.com/the-four-agreements |
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